I dedicate this blog post to my grand babies. I wanted to put some of my "truths" in writing for them just in case for some reason I'm no longer on this earth to share with them in person as they grow, they will find them here:
25 THINGS I KNOW FOR SURE:
I've learned to never say never. I hope your experiences with this lesson are learned quickly and with little pain.
I have a therapist/lifecoach that I visit once a month. Most of the time I don't even have any crisis going on in my life to discuss. I believe my monthly visits are why. Don't be afraid to do the same.
I don't believe in coincidence. I believe everything happens for a reason and although we may not understand at the time, we will someday.
I often wish I could go back in time and be a better, more wise , parent to my older kids. I re-live moments in my mind and desperately wish I could do them over differently. I now understand I wouldn't be a better, more wise, parent today if not for the mistakes of my past and I am still learning. For that,I am thankful. Don't relive your past with regrets, use it to make a better today.
I feel more comfortable in a group of males than I do in a group of females and it has NOTHING to do with male attention. I was raised with only brothers and I grew up loving to do "boy things". I had all boy cousins that I spent my weekends with on the farm on my dad's side (til I was older). I worked in a hardware store where my "friends" were older farmer men. I have felt, for most of my life experiences, males accepted me for who I was without tearing me apart with pre-judgments. Don't let people's mis-judgments make you feel uncomfortable in your own skin or stop you from doing ANYTHING. Be yourself ALWAYS.
I was born and raised on the Fort Peck Indian Reservation as were both of my parents. Although I am German/Norwegian/Bohemian (non-Indian), I love and understand their culture and struggles, and will defend them to the end. I want you to see things through the eyes of others with compassion, respect, and understanding and without judgement.
I love hearing about people that have been married for a very long time. I used to be ashamed that I've had 2 failed marriages. Don't ever be ashamed of yourself. Your struggles are what give you strength and wisdom. Your inner scars are what give you beauty and help you to create the life you were meant to live.
I have a 7th sense that I got from my mom and it can be very persistent. If you get it too, embrace it and use it to do good. Listen to your nudges and act on them.
Alot of the time my antennas are on too strong and I often hear and know things that people don't know I heard them say or do. It can be very hurtful if I let it. If this happens to you, rise above and focus on all of the good. Be grateful and none of it will affect you.
Being grateful is the answer to EVERYTHING. When you chose to be grateful, your whole life will change and it happens very quickly. ~What you focus on with gratitude, you will get more of! ~
I used to struggle with really liking myself. Once I had a dream that I (as an adult) was babysitting myself (as a little girl). I believe that dream showed me to love and have compassion for the little girl inside of me that is still there. I can't tell you how much that dream changed how I felt about myself. From then on, I wanted to help her, love her, and take care of her..... Love your little child inside. :' )
Accepting and loving people the way they are and not needing to change them or make them the way I think they should be, is a very tranquil, peaceful way to live. Love people just the way they are.
Correcting someone or having to be right just causes friction. It's better to be peaceful and happy, than it is to be right. Let it go, choose happy.
The more you give, the more you will receive x10. This is soooo true. Give to others.
There is good in every person and every tragedy. Look for it.
Keep an open mind. The majority of people thought Columbus was crazy when he said the world was round. Closed minded people are often miserable. Be willing to look at things with an open heart and mind.
Complaining about things or people only brings more of what you are complaining about into your path. Find the positives and you will draw more of that into your path. Life is good.
Thinking about what happened yesterday or what you need to get done tomorrow, robs you of today. Notice the colors around you, the smells, find the beauty, be grateful. Live in the moment because that is where you will find peace.
Judging or criticizing other people's religion or political views only brings negative energy to you. Keep an open heart. Diversity teaches us so much. Accept it. Believe and live how you chose to, and let others do the same.
Find what your passionate about and do just that. Whatever gives you energy and excitement is your calling. Find a way to make a living doing it and you will be successful.
A cluttered house creates a cluttered mind. Simplify.
Make traditions. Traditions give a sense of unity and stability.
Take care of your skin. lotion lotion lotion, drink lots of water and get enough rest. Someday you'll thank me for this one.
When someone is hurtful, unfair or cruel to you, have compassion. Something really sad and heartbreaking must have happened to them in their past to make them the way they are. Forgive.
Don't be afraid to die. We are all spiritual beings having a human experience. Our soul never dies. We are not in the same physical body we were when we were 2, but we're still alive just as we will still live on after this body dies. Remember, if I go on before you, I will ALWAYS be with you...keep an open mind and heart and you will know. :)
